AND WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT MANAGING IT
ONE TO ONE ONLINE SESSIONS
ARE THE EFFECTS OF ANXIETY?
of Life Transitions from Steven Warren.
has an effect on both our mind and our body.
Increased tension in our body muscles which leads to physical
discomfort and sometimes physical pain in our body as well as
creating tension headaches; stomach or lower abdominal pain or
back pain either in the shoulders or at the base of our spine.
Rapid breathing which can make us feel us both light headed with
muscles feeling shaky and also a sensation of pins and needles
in our body.
A rise in our blood pressure and increased awareness of our heart
Changes in the blood supply to the digestive system which may
cause both nausea and in some cases sickness.
Having to visit the toilet often and for some people a feeling
of butterflies in their stomach.
Long term fear with resulting tension and lack of sleep can weaken
the immune system resulting in lowering our resistance to infections
Severe digestive problems
Feelings of depression or intense sadness (read more about both
depression and feelings of intense sadness by following this link).
short and long term anxiety can result in your feeling fearful,
overly alert, on edge all the time, irritable and unable to relax
or concentrate properly. Naturally you may feel the need to seek
out reassurance from other people around you whilst at the same
time easily cry and feel out of control and dependent.
you think about and view your world and the world around you.
natural result of long term anxiety leads us to constantly feel
that the worst thing imaginable is going to happen with the result
that we start to view everything around us from a negative, pessimistic
point of view.
was waiting for a friend to visit her at home but when the friend
was more than twenty minutes late in arriving Sally was convinced
that her friend had had an accident or that she didn't really
want to see her when in fact the friend was late because the train
knew she had to function and each evening on returning home from
work she started drinking. Soon the amount she would drink each
evening in order to be able to get to sleep started to dramatically
increase. Whereas for Peter who had taken drugs for recreational
party time he found that he began to buy and take drugs when he
was seated at home all on his own.
held on to a relationship which had ended and in fact was part
of the initial anxiety which had now grown out of control. Her
partner was himself now reacting to both the breakdown of the
relationship as well as the tension and arguments which were happening
every night when he returned home from work. Peter made contact
and we began working on rebuilding after a relationship ends and
from such work his wife Sarah also worked with me so that they
could end their relationship on good terms and she could then
move on with no chronic anxiety symptoms.
to Day Effects
levels of anxiety are very high then this can impact on the ability
to hold on to a job or career, both develop and maintain good
relationships or simply to take time off and enjoy such time.
problems are a common problem feeding into to the level of thinking
and related day to day performance which feeds back into the circle
I outline before by increasing feelings of anxiety and tension
and your view of yourself to be able to cope with day to day life
and living it.
to cope with sleep problems by following this link.
some people their anxiety and related symptoms begin to take over
all aspects of their life. They may experience either severe or
frequent panic attacks for no apparent reason, or have, as I mentioned
earlier, a persistent free floating sense of anxiety. For many
people this can result in developing almost a phobic like reaction
to going out from their home and for many they begin to withdraw
from contact with people even their close friends and family.
Other people develop a series of obsessive thoughts or compulsive
behaviours such as endlessly washing their hands or tidying a
room time and time again.
more about the different types of anxiety disorders by following
I discuss how I work with people let us take a clear look at what
anxiety and resulting stress reactions are and how they operate
in our day to day life.
in the form of adrenaline surging around our body making our muscles
and senses heightened and aware is a natural normal and healthy
reaction. The 'fight or flight response' was designed to protect
us by preparing us to flee or fight for our lives thousands of
years ago and so it is now but for different reasons.
human brain processes hundreds of small pieces of information
per second and much of this is dealt with by our unconscious mind.
What may be viewed as important will flash into our conscious
mind so that we enter this heightened awareness. At this time
hormones such as adrenaline increase which results in our heart
beating faster so that blood reaches parts of our body faster
to prepare the body. We breath faster to provide extra oxygen
to release more energy and we sweat to prevent our body overheating.
Often the mouth feels dry as the digestive system slows down to
allow more bloody to reach the arm and leg muscles and our senses
become heightened as the brain becomes more alert to process all
important information about both the situation we face and the
environment around us.
this protection response against perceived danger drops down to
a normal level as we see the danger has passed other hormones
are released in our body to relax us down but the tense prepared
muscles may cause us to shake as the muscles begin to relax.
tension and heightened awareness my result as we prepare to sit
an important exam, prepare for an interview of begin a new job
Anticipatory anxiety as
we mentally prepare can affect our sleep, our appetite and ability
to concentrate. However, once we begin the exam, attend the interview
or begin our new job then such natural anxiety will disappear.
results when anxiety levels have stayed operating our mind and
body for a long period of time which creates a circle which I
shall discuss later through anxiety distorting how we see our
world. This can result in dealing with every day life given the
feelings of anxiety have been around for so long that you feel
powerless, out of control and sometimes are left feeling that
you are so out of control that you are going mad. Sometimes if
these feelings reach a point where you are in state of thinking
you are overwhelmed by them then this may result in a panic attack.
is a panic attack?
happens when your body over reacts to your body's normal response
to either fear, to stress or to excitement. The normal levels
of anticipatory anxiety have over time built up to a level where
an extreme reaction results such as pounding heartbeat, feeling
faint, excessive sweating, nausea, sometimes chest pains along
with discomfort in the normal breathing pattern along with a sense
of losing control and often shaking limbs and a feeling that our
legs are turning to jelly.
again in my career working with people with severe anxiety the
person often reports thoughts such as they are going mad or that
they are going to black out or are having a heart attack. Naturally
such powerful threatening thoughts add to the anxiety.
attacks often happen very quickly with such symptoms I have outlined
above peaking within about ten minutes. Most panic attacks last
between 5 to 20 minutes. Some people I have worked with experienced
one or two of such panic attacks and then never experienced another
whereas some people had such attacks once a month or several times
a week with many people reporting how they happened without warning.
some cases such panic attacks happened whilst the person was a
sleep. These nighttime attacks happen when your brain is on high
alert due to long term anxiety and even though you are sleeping
a part of your brain detects tension changes which is seen as
danger resulting in suddenly waking in your sleep. Such an attack
can be frightening as suddenly waking from a dream state leaves
you both confused and exposed.
are you feeling so anxious?
this anxiety may relate to either your personality, your current
life circumstances, your current or past childhood experiences
or, as my clinical experience has shown me a combination of these
an event or series of events which created anxiety in your past
where you were unable to deal with the associated emotions related
to such anxiety it is natural for you to feel anxious in terms
of facing similar situations in the future in case they link and
create the same feelings of distress.
example for a client, Mary, was how feeling anxious was a powerful
part of her early life because her parents always saw and related
to the world as a hostile and therefore dangerous place to live
in. Naturally, Mary has spent her life thinking and feeling the
same as her mother and father.
theories from psychology suggest that Mary effectively inherited
a tendency to be more anxious and that over time this powerful
element from her childhood became a part of her personality.
Mary and I worked together and she grew to feel more comfortable
and accepting of me and the ideas we were exploring she consciously
and then emotionally began to see how her anxiety related to the
'small child' within her and so embraced the fact that she was
now a grown adult who had power of her life and the decisions
she could make.
coffee, poor diet, physical and / or mental exhaustion to self
medication using alcohol or drugs or having a stress based lifestyle
then all of these habits both mimic and trigger symptoms of anxiety.
Fear of Losing Control in Your Life
people and this is a growing number in our current society are
worrying about the future. In my professional experience when
people do not feel in control of important aspects of their life
such as money, relationships, career then this anxiety shifts
and becomes a form of free floating anxiety naturally leading
the person to start worrying about events which are beyond their
control such as global warming, of being attacked, developing
cancer or having a heart attack or losing their job.
after a while we start to fear the symptoms of anxiety themselves
especially because the anxiety leaves us feeling out of control
and so this results in a powerful vicious circle. Such a circle
starts with feeling anxious because we dread feeling the symptoms
of anxiety and the impact it has on our day to day life and ability
to function which immediately results in actually experiencing
these powerful and unwanted symptoms of anxiety which began by
having anxious thoughts.
I work with you audio introduction and discussion with Steven
to the online audio recording
online sessions from the comfort of your home. I
have flexible hours to help suit your schedule, some evening and
weekend appointments available. Get the information and one one
one support you need without the high emotional and financial
cost of ending a relationship or, if you relationship has ended,
then the personal and financial cost of lengthy separation.
you are single or separated or thinking about ending your relationship
and want to learn to have better relationships, I can provide
the tools for rebuilding a life of freedom to decide what you
want in your future life either together with your partner or
as a single person.
We Work Together
work with you in a number of ways:
(1) via virtual online sessions which last for between one to
one and a half hours on a regular basis according to your needs
which we establish from our first exploratory online session (you
will also complete a detailed questionnaire before this session
which will be sent to you after you make initial contact.)
(2) regular email support to continue progress and answer questions
between our sessions and a flexible session programme lasting
from three to six months or up to a year or more.
on this page of my website are examples of each the crucial rebuilding
steps which are part of rebuilding a relationship when it is ending
or, if the relationship has ended, then rebuilding our future
life as a single person. You can both read the excerpts below
and listen to a sample of the full audio recordings to give you
an overview of how we work in a more detailed way. Once we begin
working together you are sent intensive and detailed written and
audio materials to prepare for our sessions together as we work
through each stage.
our initial discussion session
we will discover where you currently are in regard
to the rebuilding process. Before we schedule this all important
session I shall send you a questionnaire to complete which will
guide you through the various stages so that we are clear where
you currently are on the rebuilding journey.
below on the remainder of this page of my website you review the
various stages of rebuilding either by reading the short overview
or, if you prefer, you can listen to the summary of the audio
versions I provide for each stage which provide the foundation
for our virtual online sessions.
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